Thursday, June 23, 2016

PARENTS

Clarity to the mind and confidence to the heart. Clarity is a simplistic way of explaining the things and in a way that reaches everyone - humor. Another such clarity in today's Leader's CTM session on how parenting has to be

P - Patience
Imagine you see your child's progress report and start shouting at your child. This, not only puts off your child's confidence but increases the distance between parent-child. Is there a better way to handle this? How about telling your child that no problem dear, Papa will come home an hour early and sit with you. Next internal we together will improve and in next-to-next internals we together will improve much more and in the final exams we together we make sure we reach there. This not only will improve your child confidence but more importantly will bring parent-child together. This is just an example to keep your patience - Apply this to anything and everything.
A - Attendance
Your attendance to school and meeting teacher is as important as your child's. This if implemented at early stage serves two purpose - School/Teacher knows you are following closely and child knows you are as interested as him in the curriculum. Again this is just an example - Apply this to places where your child visit. Could be to his/her dance class, tuition etc. Informally this will help you to understand your child behavior and feedback on the areas of improvement - positive feedback.
R - Responsibility
Whether it is good or bad - do share all the thoughts with your children. This will help them to get to know and understand the family at the early stage. Give them responsibilities - start with simple things like paying monthly utility bills, choosing vegetables, washing their plates. This will help them to take bigger responsibilities in later stages. Allow them to make mistakes.
E - Environment
How do you feel when you come out of a holy place (Ex: Temple)? And how do you feel when you step out of a police station? The difference between them is the environment and positive feelings. Create positive environment at Home. Positive environment - Happiness, Peace, Trust. Child will not do what you tell. They only do what you do. You watching TV and asking kid to not watch and just study will not work out. They see you and learn. You exercise - they exercise. You share - they share. You respect - they respect. You help - they help. What you expect from your child, first expect that from yourself.
N - Nutrition
In other terms Health. Health, especially girl child when they are entering teen age, should be of utmost care.
T - Touch
It is a language of sharing and caring. Hug them at-least 4-5 times a day. For girl child at-least 10 time a day. Hug them and tell them all the best, good boy/girl, tap there shoulders - encouragement. A profound statement made was - If you don't touch your kid someone else will.
S - Sacrifice
Keep asking yourself - "What can I can sacrifice for my child growth". For working couples - Can I sacrifice an hour of sleep to spend quality time with my child? Can I sacrifice entertainment to support my child? Can I sacrifice an hour of sleep and take my child to morning walk? Sacrifice should be realistic, achievable goals.

Haaappy Parenting = clarity to the mind and confidence to heart - leadersmagic.in

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