Accepting the way you are

"Accepting the way someone is" and "accepting the way you want" ... both are different. Isn't it accepting the way something/someone is the first step towards changing it. Why am I not accepting this for the change, why does it hurts more and more when I think of it. Confused mind has costed me a lot with friends. 

As it goes from one of my friend "Time is the solution for some things and patience is required atmost".